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Shana James is like your best friend, blended with the Dalai Lama and Dr. Ruth. Honest Sex is warm, wise and funny. It will help you create not only the sex life you want, but the rich relationships you need for true happiness.

Ed Frauenheim, co-author of Reinventing Masculinity: The Liberating Power of Compassion and Connection

From my thirty-five years as a therapist, I can say Shana James is the real deal. Her understanding of relational struggles and the potential for inspiring human connection, along with her willingness to practice what she preaches, makes her a trusted guide.

 Terrence Real, Founder, Relational Life Institute, New York Times Bestselling author of US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship and other titles 

As a marriage and family therapist for more than fifty years, this is the book I've been waiting my whole career to give to my clients. I'll be telling everyone I know to buy three copies—one for yourself, one for your partner, and one for the friend who has been waiting for honest sex all their lives.

 Jed Diamond, PhD, author of The Enlightened Marriage,  12 Rules for Good Men and othe titles

This book is for you if you want a fulfilling, healthy, exciting love and sex life 
...without being exhausted by rules, games or trying so hard

Honesty that Creates Connection 

Depending on how you communicate honesty, it can break or strengthen dates and relationships. Most of us never learned to be honest, in a way that creates emotionally connected, sexually satifying relationships. This makes it common to struggle in love. With a new understanding of honesty, you'll be able to create a fulfilling and exciting love and sex life.

What is Sex, Actually?

Most of us were taught a very limited definition of sex. As a result, people often feel uncomfortable talking about, or asking for their real desires. Sex becomes awkward or disappointing, rather than connected and exciting. When you learn to expand from a fast food sex life, to a gourmet sex life, you'll find that sex is nourishing and exhilarating, and becomes more so over time.  

Tools To Deepen Intimacy

Love and connection can deepen over time, but it's all too easy to get stuck in unsatisfying habits and relationship dynamics. Learn these six healthy relationship tools to create more trust, respect, and appreciation. These become the foundation for passion to ignite, on dates and stay alive in long term relationships, as long as you live.